I don’t know about you, but I grow weary with the limits and constraints put on who and what is considered beautiful in our culture. Beauty is typically defined by a narrow set of rules about physical attributes that are, for the most part, completely determined by the gene pool in which you were privileged to swim. It has little or nothing to do with character, strength, heart, or any other quality that reflects the decisions and choices a person makes. In response to this, my personal focus has shifted from who is beautiful to who is full of beauty. And life has become much more interesting!
Now, let me be honest – I still appreciate physical beauty in men and women. When I see a strong cowboy in the saddle, or a poised and elegant woman, I respond with appreciation for visual interest that they create – but it doesn’t move my heart. On the other hand, when I see a mother patiently devoting herself to the needs of her children, or a man serving his aging wife with tenderness and compassion – I am deeply struck by how full of beauty they are – regardless of their physical attributes.
My definition of beauty has radically changed. I am training myself to take notice of those who are full of beauty, not just beautiful. I watch people as they relate to others – are they patient or rude? Are they focused on themselves and their own needs – or do they look for ways to connect with others? Are they givers or takers? Have they made choices for goodness in their lives? Do they live lives they can be proud of or are they just proud?
One of the key qualities I have noticed in people who are full of beauty is their openness. So many people self-protect with such vigilance, that they suffocate their own beauty. You cannot keep hurt out without stemming the flow of goodness from your own soul. The channel has to be open. Any person full of beauty has decided at some point that the risk of getting hurt is worth the joy of having goodness flow through them. So they are both open and brave.
Another quality of those full of beauty is that they push past their fears. Instead of fearing that they will be misunderstood, they go ahead and encourage others around them. Instead of holding back, they go ahead and speak up. They don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. They are bold and fearless – risking their personal comfort to make a connection and give something of themselves away. They don’t worry about what they will get in return, and they don’t measure out the love they give. They just give it!!
The person who is full of beauty also seems to understand the importance of knowing and being known. They are willing to take the time to invest in hearing a person’s story and getting to know the real person. They go beyond social pleasantries and get to the roots of a person. This requires time and patience. They are also willing to be known – to let someone into their world. They are open, honest, and invested in the people around them. And the people around them feel loved and enjoyed. Those full of beauty are truly beautiful!
“Goodness makes those full of beauty so beautiful.”
Who do you know that is full of beauty?
A “Good” Idea:
Think about your own perceptions about beauty. Are you full of beauty?