Are You Afraid to Die?

Posted by Sooz on Monday, April 23, 2012 | 2 Comments

Are you afraid to die? Most people have some degree of fear or apprehension about it. It’s normal. But there are others who are terrified of the prospect. Death is a villain that stalks them, and the fear of it steals their joy in life. I watched a beautiful video that inspired me to ponder with you this often avoided topic. It was from the life of Philip Gould, a British gentleman who worked closely with Tony Blair in the political hierarchy of Britain’s government. The film is an intimate portrait of his final days in the battle against cancer. The thing that I loved was that in the “Death Zone” as he called it, he was at peace and more “alive” than ever. The way he approached death made him more alive! I think this is a topic worth exploring.

It might help, first, to consider this… fear is a messenger just like beauty. Beauty comes to remind us that there is something good and powerful at work just behind the scenes. It reminds us that there is mystery and wonder to life, but we have to stop and listen to receive this message. Fear also comes with a message. When you have a fear that is out of proportion to the situation, one that seems to own you, it is a messenger. Something in you is reacting to this trigger like an alarm – to alert you. Our bodies use pain to communicate and our souls use exaggerated fear, among other things, to let us know something is out of order. This is where nest knowledge becomes so important.

Fear is uncomfortable, just like pain, so most of us do anything just to avoid it. We don’t take the subway, or go on rooftops, or get in big crowds, or whatever it is that frightens us. We hate the fear and work hard to avoid triggering it, but we also don’t listen to it. We don’t hear what it is trying to tell us.

What we have discovered at Save Goodness is that as you begin to turn your attention inward to what we call your nest, then you become more aware of the good twigs and the toxic twigs that make up your life. As you begin to work on this home within, where your heart lives, then you begin to understand yourself better. You begin to discover what is safe and life-giving to you and what is not. This attention to your heart can begin to slowly unravel mysteries in your life, like why certain things make you angry or afraid. It is very empowering.

It seems that for Philip Gould, accepting death was the key. For him, acceptance brought freedom, power, and courage. We cannot accept something so significant without being able to be still and quiet with ourselves. Can you do that? Can you be still and quiet with yourself? Working on your nest will enable you to grow more and more comfortable with who you really are. As you remove toxic twigs from your life you will find your inner space more comfortable.

I believe that to live free from the fear of death you must do several things. First you must know your own nest and be comfortable with your inner life – the true you, then you must take your own spiritual journey to seek truth about this life and the life after. What do you think about those things? They are very important and affect the way you see the world. Seek truth about these issues. Don’t leave yourself hanging in doubt and worry. Find out what you believe. Finally, live your life with purpose. Do things that have meaning and will leave a legacy of goodness. If we live out our lives with the realization that we are creating our own legacy, then we are more likely to be able to truly accept death when it comes.

Those are my thoughts, but why don’t you listen to someone who really knows, someone who has walked this path and graduated well. Here is Philip Gould in his own powerful words.

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2 Responses

  1. I’m not so much afraid of dying at this point, but rather frustrated and bothered by the fact that the time with my loved ones is limited. With any luck I have another 20-30 years, and then this is it! I remember 20-30 years ago very clearly, almost as if it was yesterday, and time went by so fast. If anything I’m afraid of this pace and wish that things could stay the way they are, forever. But that is not how life works. All the more reason to savor every moment and try to make it the best possible experience for everyone.



  2. Lala says:

    So very meaningful! Reading that I was remembering something my dear cousin said within the last few months of her death from ALS – “I know God, so I can die in peace.” There was that fear of what the last moment would be like, I am sure, but she was truly at peace! I can”t say that I have achieved that inner-peace, it is a work in progress – but I strive every day to work on my nest and am finding it easier to sort out those toxic twigs. Thanks, Sooz for making every day easier to find goodness.

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