A dear friend posted this video by Sara Bareilles on FB recently. I watched it until the tears made it impossible for me to see the screen clearly. I gathered myself and watched it again. I think it was the third pass before I could really take it all in. There is something galvanizing to the human soul when a voice calls out to the truest part of us. Our best self resonates with truth. This video did that for me. It spoke to me, called me, it challenged me – it made me feel something.
What about you? Did it hit you in the heart? I bet it did. What happens inside you when someone says, “I wanna see you be brave?” What do you feel when you hear, “Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live, maybe one of these days you can let the light in? Show me how big your brave is?” For me, the video was a challenge to take hold of the freedom to be “me.” For my friend, it was something much bolder.
A day or so after I watched the video, I got an email from this friend. She began to tell me how after watching “Brave” she felt compelled to reach out to someone with whom she was estranged. She wanted to be brave and let the words fall out as the lyric says, so she composed a kind and honest letter to this person – telling them the truth of how she felt. And then she waited…hoping that her words would be met with acceptance, but not knowing. That is the tricky part about being brave. To earn the title of Brave you have to be willing to take a risk – to put yourself on the line. There is a quote by John Wayne that goes something like this, “Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway.”
The beauty of Bravery is that someone is willing to open the door to possibility. Opening that door costs them something and there is no guarantee that things will work out well, but they risk it for “what could be.” As my friend waited I am sure she was fearful of what the reaction to her truth might be. Rejection is terrifying to most of us. The fear of it can hold people captive for a lifetime. My friend put her heart on the line and risked rejection. She was willing to risk it for the chance to open a door that had been closed.
This time Bravery was rewarded and my friend established a connection that was healing and restorative for both people. Her act of Bravery unleashed a chain reaction of healing and Goodness which we will never know the full benefit of. But what if it had not? The important thing to note here is that even if it had not been received, her act of Bravery was an assault against the silence that longs to keep us disconnected. She was Brave and Spoke! Light and Life come from that kind of courage. It disrupts the stagnant, energy-blocking hole we can find ourselves in. In stepping up and reaching out, my friend started something GOOD. To speak truth is powerful, even if it is not received. But it takes a Brave heart to do it.
How big is your brave? Is there something you need to say? Is there a place where you have been frozen or cut off from someone? Are you willing to be brave and risk being rejected for the sake of what could be? Why don’t you tell them the truth? I just wanna see you be brave!
Are you willing to risk rejection for the possibility of what could be?