Of all the Goodness we experience in life, little can match the power of friendship. Without any exaggeration I can say that true friends have saved my life. When I was a teenager I went through years of severe depression and no one seemed to notice, no one but a guy named Scott who befriended me despite my “uncoolness.” He kept me from ending my life because he showed me a little respect and tenderness in the middle of my darkness. I owe him my life.
Later I met my husband and he became the one person who really knew me completely. His love and friendship have continued to transform everything about me. A decade ago we went through the worst assault we could imagine. We lost everything including all our finances, friends, and our faith. Thank God there was one couple willing to take us in and provide us with a safe place to heal. Carl and Meri Lee (the other half of SaveGoodness) patiently and lovingly gave us room to be broken. They gave us time, safety, counsel, and love when we had nothing to give back. They sat with us as we tried to put the pieces together again. They kept us alive when we were ready to give up on everything.
Friends can play such powerful roles in our lives. They listen when no one else will. They protect and defend us when we are vulnerable. They give us space to spread out and be open and honest. They inspire us to keep going when we want to quit. They trust us. They believe in us. They make us better people.
This week we want to honor true friends. They are one of the richest sources of Goodness in life and we need to honor that truth. Take a few moments to think about the true friends in your life. Have you told them how much they matter to you? Have you let them know that you value them?
Spend a moment reflecting on the words below from Kahlil Gibran’s work The Prophet then go connect with one of your “besties.” Let them know what they mean to you…for Goodness’ sake!
And a youth said, “Speak to us of Friendship.”
Your friend is your needs answered.
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And he is your board and your fireside.
For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.
When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the “nay” in your own mind, nor do you withhold the “ay.”
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.
And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.
Kahlil Gibran on Friendship
Do you have true friends? What kind of impact do they make in your life? You might want to thank them.