Speak to Us of Friendship

Posted by Sooz on Monday, May 26, 2014 | 7 Comments


Of all the Goodness we experience in life, little can match the power of friendship. Without any exaggeration I can say that true friends have saved my life. When I was a teenager I went through years of severe depression and no one seemed to notice, no one but a guy named Scott who befriended me despite my “uncoolness.” He kept me from ending my life because he showed me a little respect and tenderness in the middle of my darkness. I owe him my life.

Later I met my husband and he became the one person who really knew me completely. His love and friendship have continued to transform everything about me. A decade ago we went through the worst assault we could imagine. We lost everything including all our finances, friends, and our faith. Thank God there was one couple willing to take us in and provide us with a safe place to heal. Carl and Meri Lee (the other half of SaveGoodness) patiently and lovingly gave us room to be broken. They gave us time, safety, counsel, and love when we had nothing to give back. They sat with us as we tried to put the pieces together again. They kept us alive when we were ready to give up on everything.

Friends can play such powerful roles in our lives. They listen when no one else will. They protect and defend us when we are vulnerable. They give us space to spread out and be open and honest. They inspire us to keep going when we want to quit. They trust us. They believe in us. They make us better people.

This week we want to honor true friends. They are one of the richest sources of Goodness in life and we need to honor that truth. Take a few moments to think about the true friends in your life. Have you told them how much they matter to you? Have you let them know that you value them?

Spend a moment reflecting on the words below from Kahlil Gibran’s work The Prophet then go connect with one of your “besties.” Let them know what they mean to you…for Goodness’ sake!


And a youth said, “Speak to us of Friendship.”
Your friend is your needs answered.
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And he is your board and your fireside.
For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.
When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the “nay” in your own mind, nor do you withhold the “ay.”
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.
And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.

Kahlil Gibran on Friendship



A "Good" Idea:
Do you have true friends? What kind of impact do they make in your life? You might want to thank them.


7 Responses

  1. Bill says:

    Hi Sooz
    You keep reminding me of the important things in our lives. These thoughts about friendships are among the most important. Thanks again Sooz– you’re the best.
    Love to both of you

    • Sooz says:


      You have been such a good friend to me and a constant source of encouragement. I deeply appreciate you and love you to the moon and back!!


  2. Angela says:

    LOVE LOVE LOVE your honesty and wisdom… So thankful you hung in there and for friends that carried you through so that I could be so blessed by your friendship…

  3. Meri Lee says:

    My Sooz…..nothing but shelter for each other. A beautiful post dear friend.

  4. Powerful……………

  5. Susan,

    When I saw this I pulled over on an exit ramp to read it. Today I learned a dear, dear friend had deceived me based a mixture of good but also perhaps selfish motives. In yet they called me their best friend and as I sat with my sadness, I wondered why. Then it came to me. It is because I know them at their deepest, shallowest, best, worst, and no matter what I cannot but love them. My life, like yours, has been a journey. In a few days, I will be 51 and yet I know my greatest growth as a man, a soul has not come to me yet. Many look at you, at Mark, at me, and see this or that then love us for what they see, but few love for the simple sake of love and because of this gift or curse, venture into the land of authentic love.

    You know as well as I our gifts to each other were mutual. You suffered darkness and I was a human train wreck which was visible through alcohol/drug abuse and crime. Yet below these and the things that caused them, the translucent blue column of light inside us, our eternal life experience, born and yet to be born testified to hope, to belief I’m something inside us, the creators Love and Unity called across seven hills to say, “you are mine and I am yours”

    Tonight I sit in the rain again wringing clothes of grief over the loss of Love and Unity. My greatest hope in it has been crushed yet again, but I remain, I am heading home, to the forests and mountains of Tennessee to hear the creators yet again speak to me, to convict me of hope.

    Your message came as I pulled onto the entrance ramp for the first mile of that journey. The creators smiled.

    Speak to me of friendship, speak to me of my friends who belief Love and Unity are a lifestyle choice not just words inscribed on polished stones and sold at the counter of that trendy new age store.

    Speak to me of friendship and I will speak to you of the Warriors of Love I have fought beside, enduring cold winters of the soul with, and survived to feel the thaw of spring pour through our veins like a warm hand.

    Nadi (Scott)

    • Sooz says:

      To my friend the warrior poet…
      As you well know, love is never wasted. Hold fast to the truth that it matters; we are both living proof of it. May your heart move forward as you journey back. Ohio’s loss is Tennessee’s gain. Hug Ella and Stella for me – those girls are in for a treat! Let the Little Pigeon sing you to sleep. Namaste.

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