Somewhere between the cradle and the grave most of us get lost. We eventually wake up wondering why life is “less than” what we’d expected, why everyday seems the same, wondering how in the world we got here – and where, by the way, are we anyway? When we were little life made sense. We lived in the moment. We knew what we liked and what we didn’t like. We knew what made us happy and sad. We were easily pleased – easily in awe of the world. Life seemed big and full of possibilities. We were hopeful and optimistic. We had desires and longings and they propelled us forward. Life was simple and it didn’t take much for us to be content. Little things gave us big thrills. Bubbles, ice cream, baseball cards, our favorite stuffed animal….these satisfied.
So what happened? How did we get lost? It happens in a thousand little ways doesn’t it? We tear off pieces of ourselves in order to fit into the box of other people’s expectations, what is considered normal, the boundaries set by society – the dumbing down of us. Before you know it, we have reshaped ourselves into a person that looks nothing like the real us. We have denied the truth of who we are in exchange for acceptance and approval, and in doing so we have given up the only thing that matters – living in harmony with truth.
I cannot even begin to count the ways I have done this. I have wanted to be liked, to be accepted, to be noticed, be “in good graces”, to be O.K. I have wanted to fit in, be normal, be cool, be well thought of. I was willing to reinvent myself in the form of things I esteemed, admired, or wanted – even good things – but still I was pretending rather than truly being. In the end I was so attached to this alter ego that when it was exposed as false it almost killed me – seriously. I had wrapped my ego around something that seemed so right and good but in the end it was false. Because I had over identified with it, when it came tumbling down, so did I. I woke up in the aftermath unsure of anything. Who was I? What was really true about life and the world? I was lost – completely lost.
Hardship, disappointment, failure, trouble… these dreaded things are often life’s attempt to show us where we are not in harmony with truth. They may have other purposes in our life, but many times they are a way to expose us to the truth about ourselves. Hardship and betrayal showed me that I was not the person I thought I was. It was heartbreaking – but necessary, and it gave me opportunity to align myself with truth. I was able to see that the real me had been forsaken early in my life. Situations and circumstances early on left me feeling totally worthless and unimportant. When everything in my life fell apart, all the props and duct tape I had used to keep myself together fell away too. I was left looking at myself – the real me. I was pretty beaten up – a mess really – but I had found my way back to the place where I got lost.
Where did you get lost? Do you know? What’s happened to the real you? Goodness as a way of life will always bring you back to what is real. Goodness is about balance and harmony and trueness. If you are to live a life that you can be proud of, then it has to be a life based on the real you – from your true heart. You are fortunate if you wake up in time to realize you are lost, even more fortunate if you do not ignore the signposts of hardship and disappointment. If you find yourself in this place right now, then summon the courage to look deeply inside yourself and see the true you. Find the genuine you and reacquaint yourself. Wholeness yields a life that you can feel. It opens your eyes to hope and possibility and makes contentment much easier to grasp. Harmony of being, wholeness of heart, contentment and satisfaction with your life…these are the fruit of knowing and being true to the real you. Do you know what’s become of you?
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What has become of the true you? Take a minute to consider where you are.